Month: December 2008

  • Mysterious Unknown Song

    So as I came back from my journey to the East just before I reached my humble abode my last burned CD hit the last track and so I ejected it and turned to a completely random radio station.

    There played an interesting song that I quite liked and I thought “I want to listen  to this again.”  But I didn’t hear who sang it or what the name of the song was so I tried to remember one particular section of the song lyrics so I could use it to look it up online.

    Unfortunately… I fail. Other things took over my thoughts and I completely forgot to look it up. 

    And now… the song is haunting me! I can’t get the stupid thing out of my head no matter how many other songs I listen to. I really want to hear this song again! Even though my memory fades hour by hour and I remember less and less of it, I still feel like this is a song that I have to hear. I fear that if I don’t find this song soon I will be driven stark raving mad!  So I turn to you the Xanga community for your help and assistance.

    Here’s all the clues that I have to work with to figure it out as best I can describe it:

    1. the song was played on the regular radio, I don’t know what station but I think it’s a pretty popular song.
    2. I’m pretty sure the song was Rock or something similar to rock. It definitely wasn’t rap or blues or metal
    3. i felt like I’d heard the song before or at least the singer, maybe several times, so I think it was a popular artist or band
    4. the song didn’t feel old, it felt kind of new but then i don’t have a lot of musical experience so who knows
    5. the song was slow and somber it may have had faster parts but the section i remember was somber
    6. the lyrics felt a little “clever”, not like super clever. it wasn’t like a subtle poem, but it did feel like it was open to some interpretation, not mind numbingly obvious
    7. i don’t think it was a love song or not obviously primarily a love song
    8. the singer was male and the artist’s voice was fairly deep but not like super deep.

    OK and now for the main clue.  Here’s what I remember about the section that is stuck in my head.

    1. It’s a three sentence or three phrase or three line section of the song that repeats several times in the song
    2. There is an important keyword in the three phrase section that stands out strongly and might even be the name of the song or in the name of the song. It’s a word that feels powerful, like “tomorrow” or “forever”. It could even be one of those two words. It could be two words but I don’t think it’s more than 3 syllables.
    3. The first phrase in the section either starts or ends with the keyword and I’m leaning toward ends. I don’t know anything else about the first phrase.
    4. The second phrase definitely starts with or features the keyword very near the beginning of the phrase. So it’s something like “*keyword* blah blah blah” or “because *keyword* blah blah blah”. Since the first phrase ends with the keyword and the second phrase begins with it it gives a sort of cyclic turnaround feel to me.
    5. The second phrase has a kind of a negative or final feel to it. Like the concept of the second phrase feels like something closing or ending.
    6. The third phrase doesn’t feature the keyword but it has something to do with loneliness or mental life. Like it’s a phrase like “lost in my mind” or “caught in my head” or something like that.

    Sooo overall it’s something like
    “something something *keyword*,
    because *keyword* something something,
    (something like ‘lost in my mind’) ”

    And that’s all I know.  After watching a couple of episodes of Torchwood last night my roommate and I listened to dozens of songs and artists with her trying to help me narrow down the song and voice. We spent like three hours on this but still couldn’t find it.  However, a few artists stood out to me as maybe being the artist or similar, those include: Daughtry and 30 Seconds to Mars. But I might be completely mistaken about that all I know is I liked these artists and I liked the song so maybe there is some sort of correlation there.

    So… that’s all my weak clues. Is it possible for you to guess the song on that basis? If so, PLEASE TELL ME! You will have saved my life and earned my everlasting gratitude.

    Help me all you Xanga-won Kenobis you’re my only hope!

  • Tales of Xanga: Legend of the Vault

    Welcome and sit back and listen to the tales of a mystical world of wonder and amazement. Welcome and hear of a mystical land where spiderman is black and where pixies come in pink and purple. A place where dark angels take their cat naps and where people aren’t afraid to spell different with one f and two t’s. These are the the tales… the tales of Xanga….

    *******

    The called him The Vaulted One or just Vault for short and he was a Xedi. What is a Xedi you ask? They are Knights who wield special powers to protect the Xangaverse.  And the Vaulted One was one of the strongest of the Xedi to ever live.

    Continue reading

  • Xanga Ideas I Support

    This is a list of Xanga ideas I voted for and support with some short discussion as to why.

    See your posts in list form & be able to take action on posts

    Judging from the staff comment they are definitely moving toward this kind of an interface. There have been numerous similar suggested ideas.  In addition to just being able to act as a group for deleting, privatizing, tagging, etc. you should also add the ability to sort or filter by private/public/date/comments/views/recommends .

    Dates on subs

    Honestly the Date line at the top of the subscription browser should have a drop down box so you can select the last weeks worth of dates or so and it filters or jumps your subscription browser just to that date.

    Right now that Date line is too hard to see and hard to notice too btw. When it changes most people are unlikely to even notice that they are on a new date. This is because it’s in the same place and looks the same all the time and there’s no celar indication that it has changed. So you should also include a line between two blog entries when a new “day” begins that is very clear and stands out. This makes it easier when browsing blogs to partition your reading by date so you don’t end up browsing through entries you’ve already gone over.

    Link to Post

    This is exactly like the youtube Video Responses idea.  I actually wrote A LOT about this in the past and I think it would be brilliant. I called it Blog Replies and I also suggested comment blog replies which perhaps I will enter as a separate idea.

    One thing I don’t remember if I mentioned in my ancient post is that of course when you post an entry you have to be able to opt out from allowing users to blog reply to their entry. And you have to be able to opt out of blog replies altogether too. Otherwise it will annoy people a LOT. But in general I think people will love this and it will make the community more cohesive.

    Move the protected entries

    This has always annoyed me about the subscription browser. You can see protected and non-protected, but not BOTH. You should be able to see a view with both  and the protected entries should just be colored differently or have some sort of symbol so that they stand out and you know it is protected.

    I prefer this to putting protected entries on the unviersal feed  as some have suggested.

    Credits

    Just for the sake of transparency you should have this. Otherwise most users don’t know how or why they are getting or using credits. And if there’s a bug it would be hard to catch. When credits appear and disappear mysteriously from your account it makes it hard to figure out what you could or should do to manage your credits most effectively.  

    Along with this when you do things like post a comment that gives you credits it should tell you right then and there how many credits you’ve earned. And when you give a mini it should tell you how many credits you’ve spent and how many credits the person receiving the mini will receive.

    Default links to open in a new window or tab

    This MUST happen! It drives me insane.

    Design Your Own Minis

    This is just a great idea that would be really awesome. But actually I think Xanga can do it in a lot more interesting way than the person who posted this idea suggested. Rather than simply letting each Xangan design their own one personal mini to give out, users should be able to create and MARKET minis as they desire. The currency would be in credits. Adn you get paid when others use/give your minis. That way you can sort of make your own mini-business if you’d like. THEMES could also be done this way and I think that’d be damn cool. Of course, I think it’s reasonable for Xanga to take a cut of the credits transaction sort of as a tax.

    Ideas

    People love ideas but there’s obviously a lot of desire to have more commentary/discussion about them. That’s why there are a lot of ideas about this that have been submitted.  I think just allowing basic short comments, maybe even pulse length limitation on ideas would be a great start.

    Xanga APIs

    Really powerful Xanga APIs are very important in terms of encouraging the growth of Xanga. Furthermore, as you can tell the amount of ideas the Xanga community can come up with FAR exceeds the number of ideas that can ever be implemented by the Xanga staff even if they were ten times as large as they are.  APIs allow Xanga to outsource some of the work to Xangans themselves who can generate actual modules/plugins/utilities etc. that implement wanted features. Furthermore these apps can serve as TRIAL runs for the Xanga Team. An idea that sounds really good might not actually BE that good in practice so testing them out can be a great way to see what’s popular and what’s not. Good feature extensions built by the community can then be integrated into the Xanga main code.

    At a Glance

    I think this is a brilliant idea and I was thinking along the same lines. Only I wanted to not see these myself so much as SHOW them to my users. I think Xanga should do both.  Allow users to Showcase their most popular, recommende,d commented, viewed blog entries as a module on their blog.

    Featured Questions

    The idea here is to allow Xangans to VOTE on which featured question gets selected. I’m not sure so much about voting per se but some sort of more transparent Featured Question selection process should exist. Users should be a part of deciding which featured question gets selected. There’s a lot of ways you can do this:
    1. Vote
    2. User Editorial – Select user “editors” who select the featured questions, sort of like slashdot moderators
    3. Pass Along – person whose question got selected picks the next question (not their own) and so on

    Those are just off the top of my head but I’m sure there are tons of other ways to consider.

    “save” posts for viewing later

    Basically this is a kind of “favorites” or “bookmarking” system like many other sites and applications use. Only with “favorites” you sort of have two sides, the public showcasing side. Ala, “look at these blog entries they are my favorites!”  and the private reference side: “these entries are ones I *personally* like and/or want to reference again fro some reason.”

    Currently “recommends” serve the public side of favorites.  You can also use them for the private side if you use the recommends module on your blog which will give you a listing of all blogs you’ve recommended. Similarly you can try and find your entries in the recs tab of the Universal Inbox.

    We could make recommends serve this private purpose better in two ways. You can put a “recs” tab to the Public Feed which shows what your site displays on other people’s universal inbox.  And/or you can put a “recs” tab on the Feedback Log.  Xanga should probably do BOTH of these things.

    However, even with those changes, Recommends are a poor choice for the Private side of favorites because of its inherent limitations.  Limitation 1: You can’t recommend your own entries. (but I can bookmark my own webpage for example and might want to)  Limitation 2:  If I am marking an entry as a reference point it doesn’t necessarily mean I want others to read it. Maybe I just want to mark something for reference so I can go back and comment on it, but I don’t want my subscribers or freinds to read it?

    Limitation 2 can be fixed partially by complicating the Recommend feature. There’s a lot of Ideas that suggest doing this. For example some have suggested putting reasons on recommends which would enable you to put a reason that this recommend is just for reference. I’m not sure if anyone has suggested it but if not someone should, but there’s also the possibility of making recommends more targeted. A sort of “protected” listing for recommends, so that only certain people see what you recommend. Then you can make an empty list for private recommends.

    But I’d say the best and easiest way to implement this kind of feature is just to make it it’s own internal feature that lets you mark a post to go back to. It should appear somewhere on the Your Stuff section or on a separate new Personal Content Manager panel or else as its own new category on the left hand menu of your private page. The interface can probably look sort of like the MAIL client, with check boxes so you can easily delete favorited entries.

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    That’s it for now. I’ll add more thoughts on more ideas in the future.  Keep up the great ideas!!

  • The Economic Paradox

    People always make this classic mistake. They think that, the worst their financial status is the LESS they should spend and the greater their income the MORE they should spend.  This seems to make perfect logical sense to most people. Too bad it’s just plain false.

    When your financial situation is going downhill, that’s when it’s most important to start spending. That’s when you buy that suit for interviews. That’s when you go into debt to pay for those classes and/or retraining you desperately need. That’s when you go to that party for networking. That’s when buy supplies so that you can start up your own business. In short, you have to spend SMART and spend money to make money before your financial status gets so bad that you can’t spend anymore.

    But if you don’t spend during these bad times, you’ll get stuck. If all you do is cut costs and cut costs and cut costs forever you’ll never regain your upwards economic momentum. You’ll be able to continue eating longer than you would if you tried to spend money to make money and failed, but you’ll just lose money until there’s nothing left anyway. That’s putting your hands in fate and hoping for a miracle. It’s far better to take your fate in your own hands and be willing to spend, time, energy, and *money* in order to change your fate.

    In contrast when your economics are good, that’s when you should STOP spending and start saving. That’s when you balance your budget. That’s when you can afford frivolous spending but you should also save the fruits of your hard work and set it aside for the time that will inevitably come when your finances aren’t so good. Unfortunately people far too often when their finances are good, end up going deeply into debt buying *more* than their means. They overspend, thinking that over time since their paycheck is so good they’ll be able to pay it off. And then something bad happens and BAM, they’re screwed.

    So with individuals, so with governments.  The idea that our Government should stop spending right now and focus on balancing its budget is Just Plain DUMB. The government is the nation’s spender of last resort. When things get so bad that individuals can’t logically spend and businesses can’t logically spend then it’s up to the government to start spending to encourage the other two categories to start spending again. This can reduce the impact of the recession if not reverse it and ultimately raises the probability that the state will be profitable in the future. That’s the idea of stimulus we keep hearing about. It’s really not that complicated an idea. It’s exactly what you or I would and should do in our own lives if we were able to see beyond the economic paradox. 

    Governments and people though can easily be mislead by the paradox.  Governments and individuals can spend too much when they ought to be saving. And Governments and individuals can stop spending just when they need to the most.

    Our Government’s mistake was  the first, not saving enough when things were good.  Meaning that now to spend more we have to go deeper into debt. Yeah that sucks, but it’s far better than the alternative. Let’s not make the second mistake too.

  • Xanga Ideas

    http://www.xanga.com/ideas

    This is probably the coolest feature I’ve seen added to Xanga in a long time.  This is a great way to get me to get off my lazy ass and start writing up the dozens of ideas I’ve had about how to change and improve the blogging sites I’ve been a part of and Xanga in particular.

    So far I submitted three quick ideas. I’ll be putting more up every couple of days and adding more detailed discussions about them on this blog since 500 characters is somewhat limiting.

    Here are the ideas I submitted:
    http://www.xanga.com/ideas/97/tagmultipleentries.html
    http://www.xanga.com/ideas/98/personalsitemanager.html
    http://www.xanga.com/ideas/99/displayyourcommentsonyourblog.html

    Personal Site Manager I think is the only one that requires extra discussion. A lot of ideas on the ideas page seemed to be revolving around this sort of concept. People are having considerable frustration in managing their own content and want new features related to that. If you recall when the new private page came out there was some consternation amongst some bloggers because they felt the focus of Xanga was turning away from writing and more toward social aspects. Some complained that Xanga was becoming too much like Facebook. However, it certainly makes no sense to turn away from Social features since those are extremely popular and effective. The new home page makes those social features front and center. But what is needed is a place where users can find all their personal editing features also seem front and center.

    The way I visualize this is that your private page sort of has three conceptual categories. You have features related to viewing, managing, editing your view of other people’s content: blogs/pulses/etc. The subscription browser, welcome wagon, and universal inbox are part of it.  You have features related to managing your underlying account information. Settings, Credits, Messages, Friends,  etc. are part of that.   And lastly you have featured related to managing your visible content. Themes, public feed, the update your site bar, and various “Your Stuff” modules are a part of this.

    Social features in a sense are oriented toward how you view other people’s content. People feel that Xanga has gone a little too far in that direction and needs to be pulled back a bit toward personal features which are oriented toward displaying your own content.

    The Social features still need to be front and center. I think Xanga is more than anything else a community. But there has to be a highly visible easy one click link to a place that centralized the Personal Editing features. Somewhere you can go where you can feel like you are in control of your own content. How it is seen, who can read it, how it appears, etc.

    This is an issue most Social Networking sites struggle with generally more than Xanga because they don’t have roots as a blogging platform. Facebook is chaos in terms of managing your own data. It can literally take hours messing with settings trying to ensure that users only see what you want them to see for each application, group, network, notes, feeds, profile, etc.. It’s overly complicated and tedious and as a result facebook has started to feel very “loud”. Users are bombarded by information about their friends that they generally don’t care about but their friends find it easier just not to bother with managing their content then to struggle through the UI.

    Xanga is generally better but users still find frustrations in particular with going through and managing their old content. This is an area where Xanga can excel above other sites. And the key is making this a focus of Xanga’s development. Build an area to which new personal management features can be added as demand for them rises. Users who see blogging as primarily a personal activity can centralize their attention on this area whereas users who prefer the social aspects of Xanga can continue to have their universal inbox and personal home page to center their attention.

  • Favorite Scenes: One of us is more than enough to PWN you!

    I recently watched every episode of DOCTOR WHO from the 2005 re-launch to present over the course of four days. That’s four seasons of about 13-15 episodes each specials included. 

    This series was beautiful. I never watched the original Doctor Who except for a few random glimpses of it when I was a kid so I have no idea if I would like it. But this new series is amazing. I loved it. Each character is clever and interesting and the concepts are creative and fun. I also think it’s rather cool that the series is a continuation, not a remake of the original series which gives it this huge repertoire of prior material to draw upon and build off of. But my favorite parts are the creepy scenes. I love the use of music and sound to build up tension in this series. I like the twists and surprises they build into every turn and how much they connect everything between all the episodes in a season. It’s just overall a very well written series.

    My favorite scene of all is neither a surprise nor particularly creepy. Rather it’s just plain hilarious. It’s this classic pissing match between two classic villains of the series. Words cannot describe the awesomeness. So here it goes:

    What do you think? Any other Doctor Who fanatics out there? What are your favorite scenes?

  • Blacks vs Gay Rights

    Since proposition 8 passed there has been a LOT of talk about how black people are by and large opposed to Gay Rights. Further, far too many of these commentators have gone beyond simply stating the correlation between the greater black turnout in California and the passing of the amendment, to explicitly blaming the homophobic intolerant black community for repressing the rights of another minority.  Some consider it a sad kind of “irony” whereas many others are more explicit in condemning black people for their participation in the atrocity of passing this amendment.  They say it’s all our fault. We pushed it over the edge. Increased black voter turnout was to blame. Shame on us!

    However, condemning the ignorant black masses for not being “enlightened” enough is more than a little disingenuous. It’s a convenient dialectic for those who want to prevent further development of gay rights, stressing the differences between these two minority communities. Turning them against each other is probably the best way to ensure that gay rights progress slowly for another twenty or thirty years or so. For that reason it behooves those of us who care both about civil rights with regards to race and sexual orientation to not jump the gun and start playing the blame game quite so quickly.

    There are certain pertinent pieces of information that ought to be taken into consideration *before* we start to label black people as the premier anti-gay rights race in this country. First of all, do blacks vote for marriage definition amendments inordinately more so than whites and other racial categories?

    There’s significant evidence AGAINST this from prior election turnouts. Consider the 2004 elections:

    “…a funny thing happened on the way to the ballot box in the last presidential election. When constitutional amendments banning same-sex marriage were on 11 state ballots in November 2004, blacks in Arkansas, Kentucky, Michigan, Mississippi, Ohio and Oklahoma were at least one percentage point less likely than whites to vote for them, according to CNN exit polls. Only in Georgia were blacks slightly more likely to vote for the amendment. (The remaining four states had too few blacks to make a meaningful comparison.)”
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    Interesting no?

    It is also not hard to see that a vast majority of prominent black civil rights leaders and politicians are very much pro-gay rights. Black church leaders are more split, but most recognized names amongst them continue to support gay rights and oppose definition of marriage amendments… even as they condemn “the homosexual life style”.

    That last seems to be the prevailing attitude amongst blacks altogether. By way of examining the results of 31 national surveys published between 1973 and 2000, Gregory B. Lewis concluded that “blacks appear to be more likely than whites both to see homosexuality as wrong and to favor gay-rights laws.”

    Even were these statements were not the case, and even considering that 70% of black voters voted in favor of banning gay marriage, to accuse the black community of being at fault for the amendment passing represents a very poor understanding and use of statistics.  The state’s Black population is 6.2 percent, and it accounted for 10 percent of the overall vote. In other words, blaming African Americans for the referendum’s passage ignores 90 percent of the vote.” (link)

    It’s even worse than that though. The idea that blacks accounted for 10% of the vote is in fact absurd. It, as well as the 70% Black vote in favor of proposition 8 are both based on a CNN Exit poll created using a questionable and possibly flawed methodology. Indeed its results seem virtually impossible.

    “for African Americans to have been 10% of the California vote PERIOD they would have had to turnout in percentages not just dramatically disproportionate to their normal turnout – to the point of virtually 100% turnout; not just their percentage of the electorate, but nearly double it; and disproportionate to the actual turnouts everywhere we actually live in this state.” (link)


    What was wrong with CNN’s methodology exactly? Well it’s rather straight forward to understand. They polled by randomly selecting precincts and some precincts have FAR larger black populations than others. This is different from other states where racial population is more spread out.

    In California, virtually all of this state’s Black folks live in just 9 of the state’s 58 counties:
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    The vast majority of the counties in this state have a percentage of Black residents of between 1 and 2% (and several have far have less than 1%). 

    When you know that about California, you know that CNN’s “random selection of precinct” method doesn’t seem to make a lot of sense if what you’re trying to do is actually know what Black voters are doing at the polls. (link)

    It’s not unreasonable to suspect that this precinct method might not only have inflated the quantity of black votes it might also have given a higher percentage of black votes in favor of of the proposition. The pole might well have hit precincts that were particularly religious and voted particularly highly in favor of proposition 8. That can’t be proven however. So we have to assume that the 70% number has some truth to it.

    Even so, under reasonable assumptions you can show that even had blacks voted in exactly the same proportions as other demographics in favor of proposition 8, the proposition would still have passed.

    On top of that we have to look at an examine what might be the reasons that blacks voted inordinately in favor of Proposition 8.

    We might make note of several obvious and well known facts about the black community. One being that blacks are extremely religious by and large. They often register very high amongst regular church attendees in polls. And also economically and educationally blacks are largely more marginalized than other racial groups in US society. Surprise surprise, when you compare by education, economics, and or religious inclination you find homophobia in larger percentages amongst the poor, uneducated, and/or regular church attendees. So then is at all a surprise? Hispanics also voted largely in favor of proposition 8 for much the same reasons.

    But we’ve already shown that although blacks are more likely to be homophobic according to most polls, they have, at least in the past, been more likely to support Civil Rights even with regards to the LGBT community.  What’s different now? Two interesting points come up right away.

    One is the corrupt ad that aired on television which suggested that Obama was FOR proposition 8 by twisting his words and using them against him. Similarly phone messages were sent using Biden’s words to suggest he was in favor of Proposition 8. These statements are clearly false and a quick lookup on Obama’s website shows his position on Gay Marriage and Gay rights is very much the opposite of that suggested.  Even so, there’s reasons to suspect that this would have had an impact the black vote. Based on personal experience, I can say that Obama’s words carry a LOT of weight amongst black people. Certainly one commercial can’t tilt the vote upwards to 70% but it undoubtedly had an impact.

    The second and more interesting point continues to this day. There’s a great debate waging within the black community explicitly risen by proponents of Proposition 8 and Protection of Marriage agendas on the question of whether Gay Marriage really IS a Civil Rights movement. And the proponents of Proposition 8 made use of this debate significantly in their attempt to sway black voters. This is reflected in the very presentation of Proposition 8 to the people of California.  The wording on the amendment was labeled: “Eliminates Right of Same-sex Couples to Marry”  As opposed to using language about defining marriage.

    This is an interesting use of words. And we can see it all the time. And when you hear black leaders even those in favor of gay marriage speak most are extremely hesitant to lable this question as a matter of “rights”. The equating of the Civil Rights movement to Gay Marriage many feel is a false comparison that they consider to be very insulting. Why? Well because the struggle for racial rights is seen as a much longer and more severe struggle and continues to be to this day. Make no mistake that even after 9/11 and even though we elected a black president, black people are still largely THE most victimized group in the nation. They suffer the most hate crimes of any other group and greater percentage of black people are incarcerated than any other minority group.

    And that’s the present day. When we look at the history of the struggle for black rights and compare it to the largely clandestine until recent years struggle for gay rights we can at least see a significant scale difference. The worldwide pandemic of slavery targeted primarily at dark skinned peoples by light skinned is not an insignificant historical blip to be ignored. And even long after slavery was ended it has been until recent years significantly more dangerous to be black in America than it was to a member of the LGBT community even if the only reason that was true was that the latter group could more easily hide their differences from the norm.

    Tactically then we can see that community organizers trynig to get Proposition 8 defeated made a mistake by stressing Civil Rights as far as appealing to the black voters goes. Many black people weren’t willing to accept the comparison.

    However… I’d make the argument that the Civil Rights perspective is as far as long term strategy goes absolutely the right position to have with regards to Gay Marriage.

    Those who scoff at the fight for Gay rights as being trivial compared to the struggle for racial equity are being intellectually dishonest with themselves. They should be called on it. The idea that persecution for gays has been any less significant or less serious a matter throughout history musts necessarily take a very narrow view of history.
    It does not take much effort to find numerous horrendous stories of cruel and vicious hate crimes perpetrated against people merely on the suspicion of having an unapproved sexual orientation.  

    True their have been and are cultures that have been more open to homosexuality but it has not been the norm in recent history. Most cultures, often fueled by religious doctrine,  have perceived homosexuality as a failing or an abnormality. Attitudes have varied by and large between treating homosexuality as a kind of joke to treating people who exhibit it as exercising some fundamental failing of will to being a signal of being dirty or corrupt.

    While it’s true that being gay never caused anyone to have to sit at the back of the bus, the real measurable harm caused by having to live perpetuatlly in fear of revealing your nature and of often being taught from a very early age that being what you are is fundamentally dirty and wrong can never be measured. And add to that, the fact that most gays cannot find solidarity with their race, their country, their culture, their gender, or their religion and often find themselves outcast by virtue of their sexual orientation from all of the above and not uncommonly from their own family as well, and one wonders how anyone can really say the gay plight somehow is “not as bad” as other disenfranchised minority groups. If anything, one could easily argue that in a lot of ways, in terms of psychological harm, being a minority in terms of sexual orientation is significantly worse.

    So this really IS a matter of Rights. More than that it is a matter of Justice and Morality. It’s a matter of giving people equal chance to happiness and an equal consideration not just under the law but in the minds of ALL citizens.  In an ideal world, there would BE no debate over Gay Marriage. Nobody would have blinked an eye at the thought of a marriage between two gay or lesbian people. Because to even bring the thought up is to suggest that being Gay makes you different, makes you less, makes you worthy of designing different rules or different terms or being treated as *different* as the *other* in some way shape or form by the society at large. Just like having brown skin made you “different” in the past. But it doesn’t. We’re all the same. We always have been.

    I believe that it behooves any of us who believe in this struggle to keep making that point. Not to shy away from it to try and placate and appease the black voter because of some flawed statistics about one election result. And when it comes to such issues it seems to me that if you can make the case, and show black people that this IS about Rights and it is as big and as serious a struggle for fairness and equity as any other we have undergone throughout history, you will find that LGBT community will find no more Stalwart allies than they will find amongst the black population who lived it and remember and will never forget.

    We aren’t there yet. Black people may not be to blame for Proposition 8 but that doesn’t mean they are blameless. We are all culpable. Far far too many people of every race and creed don’t believe and don’t understand or dont’ accept the idea that Gay Rights are the same as everybody else’s rights and that damage done to one group’s freedom is damage done to ALL of our freedom. We have to learn, as a society, to open our minds and move beyond what we have been taught and what we are comfortable and embrace a future of true equality.

    We’ll get there though. Slowly. At least I hope so.